Love is a beautiful emotion that unites people of all colors, sexes, races, castes, and social classes. However, most couples will need to spend more time with one other and even live together to explore their love. This is when the terms” marriage” and “live-in relationship” come into play.
Marriage is a more legal and socially acceptable form of a relationship between a man and a woman. There is a social validation that is appealing and satisfying in its own right.
Live-in relationships, on the other hand, are a new and growing trend among the youth that allows them to live with their partners without the constraints of arranged marriages.
Marriage and live-in relationships have diverse psychological, ideological, emotional, and societal implications.
- Living with someone before marriage is still considered taboo in Indian society, especially in a man-woman relationship. It connects to the concept of virginity, which is believed to be violated if and when a woman engages in a physical relationship with a man before marriage. She is then viewed as impure or unholy, which is a common perception, but universally accepted. As a result, a live-in relationship is heavily attacked by society. A segment of the youth, on the other hand, may disagree with what the conservative wing of society has to say. They believe that living together gives them a sense of independence as well as the feeling of being in a committed relationship without the constraints imposed by the institution of marriage.
- In a live-in relationship, either party can leave or stay if things aren’t working out. Marriages, on the other hand, can be taxing because they are intended to last a lifetime, or in the case of India, seven lifetimes! Furthermore, the validity of marriage makes dissolving it or seeking a divorce a complicated and time-consuming process. Marriages are believed to be formed in heaven, and the majority of people think this to be true. This belief is ingrained in people’s minds subconsciously, and married couples, deliberately or unconsciously, work hard to ensure that their connection lasts for a long time, sometimes until death separates them. As a result, marriage has a more solid foundation on which the partnership is built.
- A live-in, on the other hand, can be overly liberated at times. There are increased chances of instability and insecurity as there are no commitments or obligations. The couple is free to do anything they want in their own lives and do not impose themselves in each other’s personal space. Marriage, on the other hand, makes a pair more responsible, flexible, and adjusting, as well as teach them to compromise with one another.
- Marriage can assist one in becoming a more mature and better version of oneself. According to research, married couples have greater physical and mental health than unmarried couples (including live-in partners). Married couples have reduced chronic disease rates and a faster rate of recovery. They are also less susceptible to depression. These health benefits are thought to stem from the mental stability and social acceptability that marriage gives.
- When it comes to financial independence, a live-in relationship allows you to keep your hard-earned money, whereas a married pair is more likely to split their wages. When money is spent while living together, it is distributed evenly so that neither party is burdened. The economic capital in a marriage, on the other hand, is higher.
- Married couples, unlike live-in couples, are responsible for a variety of responsibilities, including relatives, family customs, children, and so on. The hardship of becoming a daughter-in-law or son-in-law is avoided in live-in partnerships because they don’t require a change in identity. One successfully avoids the whirlpool of avatars that one has to acquire.
- To make their partner feel special, a live-in couple goes above and beyond. The cause for this could be fear of losing their loved one or pure devotion. Marriage, on the other hand, would be the more ideal road to traverse for those who prefer security to adventure.
Marriage and live-in relationships should not be influenced by cultural forces. Although one may believe in the concept of holy matrimony, one should not be judged for considering a live-in relationship.
Article by Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh