The day you become a parent you start planning for the future of your kid. Everyone wants to raise their child into a responsible and successful adult. Parenting and Discipline are two terms that go hand in hand. Some form of discipline is required even in adults. However, discipline in childhood brings about stability, ideals, and structure into children’s life.
Each child is unique and so are the parents. One form of discipline technique may not work for another child. The parents have to understand their child’s mind frame and temperament and figure out what works best for their child.
Different Discipline Techniques
There are five different ways that you can adopt to discipline your child.
- Gentle Discipline
As the name suggests it is the gentlest form of discipline technique. It has nothing to do with a reward or a punishment. Rather, it is a supportive teaching process. It is the form that starts from the day when a child is born. Starting from training the child to fix their eating timings, potty training, or as they grow up it might be TV timings or finishing their homework.
Say if a child is not ready to do their homework then instead of scolding the parent might joke and ask them to write a paragraph on why they do not want to do their homework. This trick works for some children.
2. Positive Discipline
This technique of discipline helps to build a respectful, responsible and resourceful relationship between the child and parent. It is both kind and a firm method of discipline. The parent needs to understand the child’s feelings at that point in time and act in a way that stays with the child for the long term.
Sticking to the same example of finishing the homework, the parent might discuss with the child why they do not want to complete it. Instead of forcing them to do it, the parent sits with the child and explains how the child will benefit from completing it the very day. Any assistance needed is also offered by the parent.
3. Boundary Based Discipline
Boundary based method sets limits or boundaries for what children can do and what not. When kids know what will be the consequences of stepping off-limits some children become complaint. This technique involves:
- Communicating the limits
- Offering choices
- Giving warnings whenever possible
- Allow for natural consequences to happen: when a child forgets to take the musical notes copy for practice they will not be allowed to practice.
- Send your child for taking a break if they are arguing over a matter.
- Use logical consequences: taking away computer time if the child prolongs playing on play station.
4. Behavior Modification
This technique is the praise and reward method of conditioning a child. It is most commonly witnessed in parents and family members praising a four- or- five-year-old for using words like ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you. This helps the child to remember, being courteous for all their lives.
5. Emotion Coaching
This technique makes the parent stay connected with the needs and feelings of the child but still be clear of the limits. This teaches the child to express their feelings yet be responsible. If the child is not doing their homework but wants to go and play because it is the time when all their friends are playing. Then the parent needs to understand and speak to the child that they will finish their homework as soon as they are back from the playground.
Consistency is the Key
Depending on your child’s temperament adopt the discipline technique. However, remember that the parent has to be consistent with their rules and boundaries. Bending the rules can lead to behavior issues or worsen them. The child learns to trust you and follow you if you are consistent with your coaching.